Love is patient. Love is kind. And marriage is hard AF. There is a reason that fairytales end once the characters get married. It’s because thats when ish gets real. Ask someone about Luis and Michelle (yes, that’s my gov’t name) and they will tell you that we are the couple that they want to be. We are best friends and the most marvelous thing we have going for us is that we are an exceptional team. We both give 100% to our cause. If I cook, he does the dishes. They’re OUR children. It’s OUR home. Someone just pointed out that we still lock eyes in a crowded room and smile at each other. When he’s sick, I’m sick… of the thought of having to force myself to be nurturing (Thanks for the coaching Christina and Audra). We are everyone’s favorite couple but none of this has come easy.
Our lives have been graced by many perfect snapshots. We have shared moments that are so special that I cannot even put it into words but in-between those perfect moments there have also been times that we have yelled, cried, and said things out loud that we have later regret. It’s the parts of marriage that no one tells you about. The hard parts. The moments that you want to scream at the top of your lungs and even sometimes give up but you push through because you know your cause is worth fighting for.
We have been together for 16 years and on June 17th made 11 years of marriage. The first year of marriage was the most difficult for us (me). I had to learn to pick my battles. Should I argue with him about never closing the shower curtain? Is it worth it? Do I shout him out for never closing a kitchen cabinet or using the dryer as his closet? Does he even know that you are supposed to take the clothes out of the dryer once they are dried? That first year made me more mature than I could have ever imagined and prepared me for everything and anything there was to come. Love is patient. Love is patient. Really patient.
We work hard at us. Our perfect snapshots did not just happen. We made them happen. If you would have asked me 11 years ago where I saw myself today, I would have said that we would be exactly where we are now. That’s a lie, I thought we would have 4 or 5 kids by now but that’s another post. Happy Anniversary to my best friend. I am grateful for the ups and the downs. Thank you for teaching me that love is patient, love is kind and that while marriage can be hard AF sometimes, love will conquer all.